The Unmarked Road

Life On The Other Side Of Mental Illness

Month: July 2015


I now have an Instagram account! For photos of my travels, please check out danitheunmarkedroad 🙂

The Anxious Traveller

Hi guys!! I have finally managed to get a bit of dodgy Internet to post one of my videos! Honeymoon was amazing but more on that later. We haven’t stopped!

Thank you to everyone who’s been in touch, I promise to respond soon!

Just Married!

See you in 2 weeks!

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Why I Am Looking Forward To Turning 30

Well well well. With all this wedding planning malarkey I have completely forgotten that it is, in fact, my 30th birthday in exactly 1 week! Only being prompted by my sister reminded me of this rather interesting fact. Why is it interesting ouou might ask? Well as a woman you are probably more aware of this milestone than a man. And here’s why.

  • As women we’re expected to have it all sussed by the time we’re 30, career, family, social circle. AND we should look like Jennifer Anniston.
  • If we’re not at least engaged by the time we’re 30, we’re looked at rather pitifully by superior looking couples as though we have some sort of venereal disease, because why else wouldn’t we be coupled up!
  • If we’re not thinking about babies from the moment we leave our 20s behind, we must be some sort of soulless creature from the deep lagoon.
  • On the flip side if we’re not totally career focused, but instead are wanting a family, we’re looked at like we’ve committed some crime against feminism.

So why am I so looking forward to turning 30? Well, this is what the 20s were about for me:

  • It was about the outside, not the inside. Image, be it through the media or our culture, was everything. I feel ready to leave behind all the comparing my cellulite to people on TV or worrying about whether my belly protrudes slightly in that minidress. That’s not to say I don’t still take pride in my appearance, but health, not how skinny I am is what is now my priority. Our bodies are incredible for what they do! We should honour, not criticise and hate them.
  • Friendships, like relationships, were intense, heady and mostly disappointing and hurtful in the end. I have a sneaky suspicion this doesn’t change much with 30, but I am looking forward to forming new friendships which align more with the person I now know I am and want to be.
  • Family. I have only recently started to really appreciate the importance of family and know that if my 20s were about friends, socialising and finding my place among my peers, my 30s will go back to the family. I’m coming home in more ways than one.
  • Caring what other people think. Now this I have always struggled with. But I do feel that I care much less than I used to. Because those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter. Life’s too short who don’t have your best interests at heart.
  • I was lost. Well and truly, I didn’t have a clue who I was and what I wanted in my 20s. I still don’t know for sure but I’m finally confident enough to go out in to the world proudly as myself – scars, imperfections, mistakes and all!

Turning 30 is not just an age milestone for me. It is a chance to put all the horror of my demons behind me. To start afresh. I wasn’t happy in my 20s. I struggled. I am not that person anymore and what better way to celebrate this than entering into a new decade! I am ready!

If my 20s were about finding out who I was and what I want from my life. My 30s will be about getting it. My 40s about perfecting it. My 50s about enjoying the fruits of it. There’s no rush to arrive at any destination. We need to learn to enjoy the journey that takes us there.

And on that note I love and leave you for a couple of weeks! On Saturday I am getting married and on Monday I leave for my honeymoon. Do not fear! I will be back and posting some wedding picture exclusively for my readers.

Have a wonderful day everyone. xx

Mental Illness Doesn’t Discriminate

You’re not anxious or depressed because you’re weak. How you feel isn’t abnormal or wrong just because it’s different to the way other’s feel. You do not need to feel ashamed.

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