I’m sure most people can relate to this: when I look in the mirror, I see a mishmash of imperfections. The image staring back at me has big thighs, a crooked nose, small eyes and a pot belly (something resembling Roger the alien from American Dad). But what if we didn’t see those things we dislike? What if we saw the good things? What if instead I focused on my long blonde hair, my slim high waist and my reasonably straight teeth? In fact, if I was to be critic free, I’d say I like my feet and my slim ankles too!
We are so ready to be critical of ourselves. Some people get so unhappy with their imperfections that they change them, somehow hoping that a change on the outside will change something on the inside too. And I feel like a part of the problem is we are often too embarrassed to be our own fans, to say “I like this part of me” in fear of being labelled ‘arrogant’. We must always stay ‘humble’ and self loathing appears to be the ultimate gateway to being a down to earth likeable human being. Most of us don’t like people who are happy with themselves. It reflects our own inadequacies and insecurities, with thoughts such as “how can they be happy with those arms” shamelessly crossing our minds.
But being happy with how we look has nothing to do with looking perfect. After all; what is perfect anyway? Should we all look like carbon copies of each other?
No. Being happy with our appearance is about learning to love ourselves for who we are and to embrace the imperfections that make us unique individuals. It’s about not waiting to be complimented by someone else and instead saying “hey, I’m actually ok just the way I am”.
Be it because I’ve hit 30, or be it that through travelling I have seen real physical impairments and all sorts of different ideal body types, but for the first time I am learning to love the things I like about myself, and at the very least, accept the things I don’t. Because they are a culmination of things that make me different to anyone else on the planet. And that should be celebrated, not discouraged or hidden away.
Self-hate maybe more acceptable in our society as it makes those around us feel better about their own shortcomings, but I am going to invite you all to embrace self-love!
So what about yourself do you love? Maybe you have clear perfect skin or beautiful elegant hands? Don’t be shy, embrace your natural beauty and love yourself! Tell me and the world how gorgeous you are! I want to hear you shout it from the roof tops (but the comment section will do 😉 )