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Life On The Other Side Of Mental Illness

Category: Design Your Life (page 2 of 5)

Do you want to redesign your life? A life so extraordinary, you daren’t even let yourself imagine the possibilities of all you can achieve, all you have within yourself? This page will showcase my own journey of discovering if and how I will create a future that’s 100% tailored by me. A ‘no compromises’ kind of life.

‪100 Happy Days‬ – Day 1

As per the happiness challenge I posted yesterday, here’s my day 1 entry!

Even though I realised I didn’t want the hairstyle I thought I did for my wedding, I did find one that looked awesome and is a bit like this:

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Can You Be Happy For 100 Days In A Row? I Challenge You To Try!

So my sister sent me this amazing link on Facebook! I have signed up and am starting tomorrow!

Are you up for the happiness challenge? What have you got to lose! Sign up here

We live in times when super-busy schedules have become something to boast about. While the speed of life increases, there is less and less time to enjoy the moment that you are in. The ability to appreciate the moment, the environment and yourself in it, is the base for the bridge towards long term happiness of any human being.

71% of people tried to complete this challenge, but failed quoting lack of time as the main reason. These people simpy did not have time to be happy. Do you?

How? Plain simple!

Every day submit a picture of what made you happy!

It can be anything from a meet-up with a friend to a very tasty cake in the nearby coffee place, from a feeling of being at home after a hard day to a favour you did to a stranger.

#100happyday challenge is for you – not for anyone else. 

It is not a happiness competition or a showing off contest. If you try to please / make others jealous via your pictures – you lose without even starting. Same goes for cheating.

So first you register in the challenge >here<, then choose your favorite platform for submitting pictures. Here you can decide for yourself on the privacy of your participation & happy moments. Either:

  • Share your picture via facebook, twitter or instagram with a public hashtag #100happydays;
  • Come up with your own hashtag to share your pictures with to limit publicity. (Don’t forget to tell us how to find your pictures though 😉 )
  • Simply send your pictures to myhappyday (at) 100happydays.com to avoid any publicity.

And you’re ready to go! 🙂

Why would I do that?

People successfully completing the challenge claimed to:
– Start noticing what makes them happy every day
– Be in a better mood every day
– Start receiving more compliments from other people
– Realise how lucky they are to have the life they have
– Become more optimistic
– Fall in love during the challenge.

So who’s joining me? I can’t wait to start 🙂

Success Without Struggle – With Deepak Chopra

Just as always, a little message has come from the Universe at the exact right time. This little beauty has just popped into my inbox from the world famous Deepak Chopra, and as it’s something I feel quite strongly about I thought I’d share it with you. Enjoy 🙂

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How To Restore Your Enthusiasm

You’ve found your passion and you’re lucky enough to try and make it into a career. But how can you ensure you don’t lose that adrenaline fuelled excitement and drive that you had at the beginning?

Working from home sounds like the dream gig right? Well, to be honest, I can’t really complain. The FREEDOM I’ve always craved to design my own life, I’ve now got (lack of earning a wage being a bit of a barrier of course). But like with everything, making your passion into ‘work’, can have its drawbacks and you may find that:

  • You lose sight of why it is you’re doing what you’re doing
  • You become isolated which alters your perspective in a negative way
  • You start to doubt yourself and if you will succeed

But how can you turn this around?

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Why Other’s Project Their Fears On To Us

When I started on this journey to become self-employed I knew that one the hardest things to deal with would be other people’s opinions on what I was doing. I knew that the road I was about to embark on would strike a chord of fear amongst many because I was doing the opposite of everything we’ve been taught that would lead to a ‘successful’ life.  Fighting against a lifetime of education aimed to do one thing, is not easy.

I knew that to realise my dream I would need to surround myself with people who were a positive influence. People who encouraged and believed in my dream rather than those who would project their own fears on to me in an attempt to be down to earth. To be rational. But why does this fear exist?

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How To Get Rid Of Intrusive or Obsessive Thoughts

So I was going to write a post today about feeling over-sensitive and feeling a bit anxious. Then I did some meditation and realised that by writing about these feelings,  I’m giving them power. So instead I am going to write about how you can start to conquer these intrusive or obsessive thoughts.

Intrusive thoughts feel like being sucked into a black-hole of despair and getting out of it can seem impossible. Going round and round with fears and anxieties, to the point you feel something has to give, be it an outburst of anger, physical release or an implosion, can have devastating effects. It’s how I ended up self-harming.
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How To Take Back Control Of Your Emotions – Part 2

Trigger alert: I understand in times of distress articles like this can be a trigger so please be aware that I wrote this while my anxious mind was quiet, which allowed me to see things clearly – a brief window of opportunity! It should in no way make anyone feel overwhelmed. Achieving a healthier mind is a long process – allow yourself the time. Just know that I get it, I’ve been there, and it can be different 🙂

Earlier on I wrote a post about the anxious and depressed feelings that had taken control of me. I have so much to say on this topic (I got to 1500 words and decided not even I wanted to read all that!) so I have had to simplify each section. I will no doubt go into more detail in later posts, but please feel free to email me if you would like to ask me anything privately at daniallsopp@gmail.com.

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How To Take Back Control Of Your Emotions – Part 1

Our perceptions and beliefs can influence how we experience things. However our experiences also shape those perceptions. It’s a kind of ‘chicken and egg’ conundrum. Which came first, and do we have any control over how we feel about the things that happen to us?

I’ve been feeling pretty down over the past month. My life hasn’t changed since then. The weather isn’t better, I haven’t had some breakthrough or massive success, and I still have an amazing fiancé, family and friends. Nothing bad happened to make me sad, just like nothing has happened in the past week to make me feel how I’ve been feeling over the past few days…like one of the luckiest people in the world!

But I know which one is the truth. One ‘state’ was my anxious mind taking control of me, whilst now I have taken that power back.

Doesn’t this prove just how fragile our ‘reality’ really is? If you feel lucky, you are lucky. If you feel depressed, you are depressed. If how we feel is influencing how we experience our lives and therefore our reality, can we change it?

Our state of mind is incredibly powerful, and yet we often give that power to influences outside of ourselves. We say we want someone to make us happy. We blame others when we’re not. We absolve ourselves from responsibility and say things like ‘well if I had what she had I’d be happy too’. Or ‘if that hadn’t happened to me I’d be more successful’. But that’s completely untrue. Feeling resentful will only make you resentful and you will remain resentful no matter how much you achieve. The key to being happy is in your hands, not someone else’s. If you don’t like what you see or how you feel, only you can change it.

To take back the control, you have to stop blaming other people/things/situations for your discontent.

But how? It isn’t easy. It took me nearly 5 years to change the way my emotions controlled my life. I decided I no longer wanted to be a victim of my experiences, of my own mind. To see how I am winning the fight, please see part 2 later on.

Dani xx

Never Be A Victim Of Your Circumstances!

For a long time I did not love myself. And it affected EVERY aspect of my life.

It affected the successes (and mostly failures) of all my relationships – romantic and other – it destroyed my confidence and pretty much made me cower back from life. I simply existed; like a ghost not being part of the living.

When you live in fear of everything you do and the consequences of your existence, you do not truly live.

Every chance of happiness, I destroyed for being undeserving.

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Anxiety Over Finding Your Soul Purpose?

I constantly stress over finding my soul purpose. I’m anxious over whether I’m doing the right thing, in which direction to turn next… I know there are many of us who feel this way.

Today I picked up my angel cards for the first time in a long time. As some of you know, I am in the midst of my spiritual awakening, and so I asked the Angels for help. 

I randomly picked Raguel: The guardian angel if spiritual perception, and thought I’d share with you his message as it could not be more poignant.   

 “You don’t need to find your soul purpose, for it will find you.”

Have a great day everyone xx

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